Much has been said about Frances
McDermont's acceptance speech after winning the Oscar for best actress, being a
powerful tribute to gender equality and woman
empowerment. But apart from her thought
provoking mention of "inclusion rider" (a clause that is sought to be included in all
artists' contracts promoting diversity in hiring on film sets), she thanked her
husband and her son, whom she claimed to have been well raised by their
feminist mothers, who value themselves, each other and those around them!
Compare this to a recent column in The Hindu by Tabish Khair
where he advised women, especially from the Indian sub-continent - like mothers, grandmothers,
wives, sisters and aunties, against
pampering the sons in the family as the boys then end up "with bloated egos that can burst at a
mere pen prick" and make them unfit in a world of differences and with
differences being inevitable in today's world..."such men can only destroy
themselves or the world". Wow... scary and yet true...isn't it??
This International women's
day, as much as it is important for us women to acknowledge and strive for our
equal roles in this world, it is as important for us as mothers to ensure that
our sons are on the same page as well! Of course, it's a continuous process that
ought to be reflected in our outlook, opinions, actions and advice vis-a-vis
our boys, so as help them imbibe the same and internalize the sense of gender
equality and mindfulness about diversity.
So as a symbolic gesture this
women's day, I had Abhay do a small
project called "Rebel Women" on
a few famous women who broke barriers, freed themselves from the shackles of patriarchy
and challenged the stereotypes to achieve the almost impossible in a male
dominated world.
This is a spin off from "Good
Night stories for Rebel Girls" which was a gift for Aadya from her aunt
from the US, and we are grateful for this wonderful gift! A wonderful compilation of over 100 women from all walks of life
spanning the last two millenniums....from Elizabeth I to Serena Williams.....who
have "dissented", "stood up", "dared to question"
and "climbed the mountain of life by removing stones and planting flowers"!
Put together by Elena Favilli and
Francesca Cavallo and illustrated by over sixty women artists, and though it will be
a while before it can be a good night read for my little one, this one for sure
is for keeps! Apart from the well known names like Cleopatra, Jane Austen and
Mary Kom, the book also features certain
lesser known yet game changers in their own way like the Japanese Empress Jingu
and her seventy year reign, or the geneticist Nettie Stevens who was a pioneer
in discovering chromosomes, or Xian Zhang, the famous orchestra conductor from
China, or the child-bride-turned-rapper from Afganisthan, Sonita Alizadeh! I
couldn't asked for a better book on International women's day! Although a day late, Happy women's
day to all the women and women-to-be!!
True Divya. You have rightly pointed out the responsibility of the mother's to bring up their sons
ReplyDeleteI appreciate Abhay's work on this.There will be a great demand for the said book book. Well written Divya. Powerful message to all.
True Divya. You have rightly pointed out the responsibility of the mother's to bring up their sons
ReplyDeleteI appreciate Abhay's work on this.There will be a great demand for the said book book. Well written Divya. Powerful message to all.